We need to raise the bar when it comes to expectations. Think ahead. Think smarter. Instead of screaming Free So and So after they get locked up, why not scream “Stop doing dumb shit before you get locked up”? That’s supposed to be your friend, your people, your partner, your family right? We’re losing so many loved ones, young ones to addiction. Instead of having to mourn at the loss of or condemning addicts for their problem, why not invest your time and energy into helping them? You could be the change or difference. Quit following trends and glorifying ignorance. If we continue to allow and enable the use of these invented sounds and made up words, eventually we will regress and start sounding like cavemen. Reality TV is not reality, stop trying to be what you see. Show more appreciation and attention to the women and men actually being involved parents to their children. There’s nothing cool about being a sperm donor, baby daddy or baby momma. Class is sexier than ass. Stop standing all awkward with your leg looking broke just to poke your booty out. Quit taking pictures in a dirty ass bathroom. Love is more valuable than money. The word “thot” does not make being a whore an acceptable thing. Stop disgracing the purpose of marriage with infidelity. Quit judging people. You yourself are no better than him, her or them. Come on down from that high horse. Start healing, stop killing. Spread peace.
People fight to find it. People fight to keep it. People weep when they lose it and people celebrate when they have it. Some stay for the wrong reasons. Some stay despite being unhappy. Others bail because it’s opportunistic while some leave believing the grass is greener on the other side. Many fear the idea of something new, something different. There are those that are so judgemental that they avoid or deny what may be right for them. There are those who rely on hearsay, rumors and opinions to make their determination. There are the too nice, too social, too good to be true individuals and situations that get overlooked or ignored. Attention, popularity and appearance often times take place of the things that should matter most. Then there are the individuals that are just plain terrified of it. Regardless of all of these things, it’s obvious that it is one of the most complex, challenging yet vital parts of our existence. If it were easy, we’d all have it and all would be right in the world. Or so it seems. It’s hard to settle on it but we can’t live without it. It comes in many forms, shapes, types. Love is embedded within our hearts and meant for each and every last one of us. May you be blessed with not the love or lover you want, but the love or lover you deserve. They say what’s meant to be will be, but don’t neglect the fact that you have a hand it that outcome. If it makes you smile and feel good on the inside, who cares what anyone else thinks. Go for it. Your happiness is what’s at stake.
So 2016 is coming to a swift and cold end. I’m not going to indulge in politics, left, right, liberal or conservative. I just want to talk about reflection and preparation.
Reflection is not just the mirror’s response, but it’s also the evaluation of previous experiences and the lessons taken from them.
For instance, giving love and companionship a chance. At the same time, having enough respect for yourself and the strength to know when it’s time to let go, walk away, move on. If they’re toxic, if it threatens your peace or family, shut it down. Thank you for the lesson.
Once upon a time, everything was fine except you were ready and they were not. So naturally things change and the fun fades. When it’s revisited, things not being the same as before ends up being the reason it can’t happen, the time when they weren’t ready. Makes perfect sense. Thank you for the lesson.
The most challenging uphill battle youve ever faced starts to become less stressful. Less painful. More peaceful. More hopeful. It makes the process of parenthood and coparenting that much more of a blessing. Thank you for the lessons (and blessings).
You call it God’s work because it’s how you feel. To drop everything and commit yourself to helping someone who needed it. These things are challenging but if it feels like the righteous thing to do, go for it. Expect nothing in return but effort to avoid the darkness of the past. I’m proud of you. Thank you for the lesson.
A casual friendship that escalates quickly. Maybe it was just a game, who knows. One who speaks so highly on Faith yet unfaithful. Perfection you called it, what you always wanted. And just like that it was gone. With so much going on, I will pray for you regardless. No worries, your secrets are safe with me. To be honest, this one hurt the most, but thank you for the lesson.
Just a few meaningful reflections. Some great and painful lessons. Things to grow from. Things to build upon. Loads you choose to or not to carry with you into 2017. And that brings us to the preparation.
Resolutions are nothing more than goals. They shouldn’t happen once a year or at the change of years. These should be common, regular, ongoing. So in preparing, avoid mistakes from your past. By all means, make your health a priority. You only get one life. Be it children, job or education, handle your responsibilities. Be a hero to your children. Motivate and inspire others to achieve goals and promote positivity. Turn a blind eye to hatred, bigotry, ignorance, sexism, racism. Fight for your rights. Fight for equality. Fight for peace. May your God be your guide. Be honest. Be open minded. Be uniquely and completely you. Be happy, not just content. Be brave, don’t fear necessary change. Much of what you endure is per your own choices. So I hope you’re prepared. Happy New Year.
Plenty of topics and events I often times overlook or choose not to write about to avoid stirring up controversy or causing any further issues than what already exists. But, today corruption seems to weigh heavy on my mind. We as people are so quick to jump on the media bandwagon or support movements without facts or proper research. Whether it be guns, politics, friends, foes, money, baby mamas and daddies etc. We are so quick to be critical of another before even acknowledging, dealing with or overcoming our own demons. Babies are born everyday the same way people die everyday. That’s a part of the human circle and cycle of life. What lies in between is nothing but an ongoing line of choices, decisions, circumstances that for the most part we can, in some form or fashion, regulate. There is plenty that is beyond our control as well. For all the bad that we are presented with, be it by news or word of mouth, we as humans and as people should be more willing to come together to adjust rules, laws, traditions, rituals, beliefs to create a better world and life for everyone. Whether or not you believe in God, Allah, Buddha, Jah, or atheism, we are all here, living our own individual lives and have to find some common ground in order to coexist. Cops exist to protect people, but that does not mean that no cop is corrupt. Military personnel are here to protect people, but that does not mean that no soldier is corrupt. Politicians are voted into office to represent the people but that does not mean that no politician is corrupt. Parents are here to protect, raise and teach their children, but that does not mean all who create offspring are committed to this ideology. The point is, good cannot exist without evil, life cannot exist without death, wrong cannot exist without right. The list goes on. Instead of placing so much emphasis on everything we see or believe is wrong, why not devote that energy and emotion to what is actually going right? If you have an issue with something you feel is wrong, instead of criticizing, placing blame on others or creating more chaos, why not seek and offer a realistic resolution. We make so much effort into hating one another, other races, other countries and for what? We all have to share the same place and space. Let’s show more love and compassion and less hate and destruction. Let’s break the chains of history and overcome fear and rejection of other races, religions, beliefs. Let’s come together to rid of evil and hatred instead of reacting and responding with more hate. All of the negative energy has us ever so quickly spiraling down into oblivion and self destruction. We all have power, a voice, an opinion. Put it to use for the good of yourself, your family, your children, your country, your belief, your universe, your world. In the end we are all we have.
Here we are about to slide into 2016 and people still act like they know an entire story based on the image or lack thereof of the cover.
Folks still out here judging like their verdict or opinion holds any weight in the next person’s life. Minding one’s own remains a challenge.
People still allow gossip to be the main source for what they believe to be facts about others, like finding out on your own is too hard.
People out here misrepresenting our Creator and his word, to portray an image that will be liked and well received.
People still bringing their emotions and life details to share with the world on social media instead of dealing with their issues at home.
Our world continues to spin out of control but nothing that’s happening is really new to us, just the swift and enormous coverage of events.
Prejudice, bigotry, racism; overall we’ve made progress but everyday there’s an act or speech that shows how much further we have to go.
We do so much praying and thinking about victims but we do very little to help those in need, to prevent negative things from reoccurring.
Why we wait until it’s too late, I’ll never understand. We worship folks when they’re gone but where was the love and support beforehand?
Ask before assuming. Seek answers. Seek truth. Do your own research. Stop relying on the next person’s opinion.
Yes we are born into sin, we will sin regularly, but the goal is to try and live and lead a life similar to the Prophet. Don’t fake Faith.
If you aren’t willing to offer help, to offer a solution to those who need your support and assistance, you’re merely a part of the problem.
Stop sitting back, watching from the sidelines, letting people close to you suffer, struggle and destroy themselves.
We have to stop entertaining everything that is negative and start shedding more light on the good things that we see, read and hear about.
Our world is currently setup to treat positivity like its not a big deal. When is the last time you saw a Breaking News post that was good?
At the end of the day, we need to stop trying to bring others down. We have to come together. We have to love one another. Pray, smile, give.
Don’t leave too soon but don’t wait until it’s too late. Don’t pretend not to care but certainly avoid stressing yourself out. Learn from yesterday but don’t plan too far ahead. Be humble when you’re right but apologize and correct things when you’re wrong. Make choices that you’ll love and can live with, no one wants to be stuck with regret. Treat yourself with respect, but let us not forget to treat others the way we desire to be treated. Every word or action that you say or do cannot be justified for God created us imperfect for a reason. Life is not meant to always go your way. Sometimes you just have to put it to your mouth, suck it up and swallow that pride to be or become a better you.
I am by no means a woman basher nor the hating type. Just a few observations and opinions I wanted to elaborate on. Before I go in, just know that I love you all dearly…
With that said, enlighten me on what you consider a “thirsty nigga”. How can a female post overly enticing photos and statuses to draw in men, gain sexual attention and then turn around and be offended when men respond to certain behavior? What were you expecting? Then beyond that, the quality of men don’t live up to your expectations and you wanna down the gender? On top of that, you adore the attention but complain about receiving messages and comments from men responding to your posts, your pictures, your cries for attention? Help me make sense of it all.
Women are the most confusing species on the planet, yet man can’t live without them. Women are the root of our existence but carry the most emotion. What is it that you truly want? You will fight for and go to war for a man who has little to nothing going for him or you, and has done you wrong or currently mistreats and misleads you. But in reality will deny a good man, who has a future and his life together. For what?
Our generation is a mess all because y’all think that what you see and what you’re fed is what you want, need or deserve. Social media and hip hop make it okay to be a baller, yet we overlook the job or work put in to become said icon. It makes it okay to be an entertainer or exotic dancer but just because media glorifies the art doesn’t mean it is something to be proud and dignified of. Imagine if your mother was a stripper? Would you be proud of that? Imagine if your mom was half naked with her blessings on display for social media? Would you embrace that? If you had a child, would you be supportive and happy with your daughters decision to sell her looks as a means to gather popularity, money, attention?
Women used to be the building block of a family. The foundation for what a home was built on. I still believe in tradition, in happiness, love, longevity and the woman being a queen. As I said in the beginning, this isn’t a denunciation or meant to cause any drama. I just want women to be and live up to the true meaning behind their purpose and existence. Regardless of the life you choose to lead, you’re still a part of the most beautiful and precious species on the planet. Have faith, dignity and respect for yourself. Be the queen you were created to be. Don’t sell yourself for a little shine. Don’t utilize your looks as a means for attention, survival, or income.
Be more than you’re appearance. Seek more than a “right now” guy. Stop acting like your inbox is some sacred, hallowed location where only certain men are permitted to establish your acquaintance. We all know, in the real world, you get back what you put out. You receive what it is you seek. Our world continues to spin out of control and love has lost its value, meaning, purpose. With that said, what is it that you truly think, hope, believe you deserve or want? By all means….share your opinion. Real men want to know, and, as a real man, I still love you all.