Plenty of topics and events I often times overlook or choose not to write about to avoid stirring up controversy or causing any further issues than what already exists. But, today corruption seems to weigh heavy on my mind. We as people are so quick to jump on the media bandwagon or support movements without facts or proper research. Whether it be guns, politics, friends, foes, money, baby mamas and daddies etc. We are so quick to be critical of another before even acknowledging, dealing with or overcoming our own demons. Babies are born everyday the same way people die everyday. That’s a part of the human circle and cycle of life. What lies in between is nothing but an ongoing line of choices, decisions, circumstances that for the most part we can, in some form or fashion, regulate. There is plenty that is beyond our control as well. For all the bad that we are presented with, be it by news or word of mouth, we as humans and as people should be more willing to come together to adjust rules, laws, traditions, rituals, beliefs to create a better world and life for everyone. Whether or not you believe in God, Allah, Buddha, Jah, or atheism, we are all here, living our own individual lives and have to find some common ground in order to coexist. Cops exist to protect people, but that does not mean that no cop is corrupt. Military personnel are here to protect people, but that does not mean that no soldier is corrupt. Politicians are voted into office to represent the people but that does not mean that no politician is corrupt. Parents are here to protect, raise and teach their children, but that does not mean all who create offspring are committed to this ideology. The point is, good cannot exist without evil, life cannot exist without death, wrong cannot exist without right. The list goes on. Instead of placing so much emphasis on everything we see or believe is wrong, why not devote that energy and emotion to what is actually going right? If you have an issue with something you feel is wrong, instead of criticizing, placing blame on others or creating more chaos, why not seek and offer a realistic resolution. We make so much effort into hating one another, other races, other countries and for what? We all have to share the same place and space. Let’s show more love and compassion and less hate and destruction. Let’s break the chains of history and overcome fear and rejection of other races, religions, beliefs. Let’s come together to rid of evil and hatred instead of reacting and responding with more hate. All of the negative energy has us ever so quickly spiraling down into oblivion and self destruction. We all have power, a voice, an opinion. Put it to use for the good of yourself, your family, your children, your country, your belief, your universe, your world. In the end we are all we have.
Here we are about to slide into 2016 and people still act like they know an entire story based on the image or lack thereof of the cover.
Folks still out here judging like their verdict or opinion holds any weight in the next person’s life. Minding one’s own remains a challenge.
People still allow gossip to be the main source for what they believe to be facts about others, like finding out on your own is too hard.
People out here misrepresenting our Creator and his word, to portray an image that will be liked and well received.
People still bringing their emotions and life details to share with the world on social media instead of dealing with their issues at home.
Our world continues to spin out of control but nothing that’s happening is really new to us, just the swift and enormous coverage of events.
Prejudice, bigotry, racism; overall we’ve made progress but everyday there’s an act or speech that shows how much further we have to go.
We do so much praying and thinking about victims but we do very little to help those in need, to prevent negative things from reoccurring.
Why we wait until it’s too late, I’ll never understand. We worship folks when they’re gone but where was the love and support beforehand?
Ask before assuming. Seek answers. Seek truth. Do your own research. Stop relying on the next person’s opinion.
Yes we are born into sin, we will sin regularly, but the goal is to try and live and lead a life similar to the Prophet. Don’t fake Faith.
If you aren’t willing to offer help, to offer a solution to those who need your support and assistance, you’re merely a part of the problem.
Stop sitting back, watching from the sidelines, letting people close to you suffer, struggle and destroy themselves.
We have to stop entertaining everything that is negative and start shedding more light on the good things that we see, read and hear about.
Our world is currently setup to treat positivity like its not a big deal. When is the last time you saw a Breaking News post that was good?
At the end of the day, we need to stop trying to bring others down. We have to come together. We have to love one another. Pray, smile, give.
Don’t leave too soon but don’t wait until it’s too late. Don’t pretend not to care but certainly avoid stressing yourself out. Learn from yesterday but don’t plan too far ahead. Be humble when you’re right but apologize and correct things when you’re wrong. Make choices that you’ll love and can live with, no one wants to be stuck with regret. Treat yourself with respect, but let us not forget to treat others the way we desire to be treated. Every word or action that you say or do cannot be justified for God created us imperfect for a reason. Life is not meant to always go your way. Sometimes you just have to put it to your mouth, suck it up and swallow that pride to be or become a better you.
I am by no means a woman basher nor the hating type. Just a few observations and opinions I wanted to elaborate on. Before I go in, just know that I love you all dearly…
With that said, enlighten me on what you consider a “thirsty nigga”. How can a female post overly enticing photos and statuses to draw in men, gain sexual attention and then turn around and be offended when men respond to certain behavior? What were you expecting? Then beyond that, the quality of men don’t live up to your expectations and you wanna down the gender? On top of that, you adore the attention but complain about receiving messages and comments from men responding to your posts, your pictures, your cries for attention? Help me make sense of it all.
Women are the most confusing species on the planet, yet man can’t live without them. Women are the root of our existence but carry the most emotion. What is it that you truly want? You will fight for and go to war for a man who has little to nothing going for him or you, and has done you wrong or currently mistreats and misleads you. But in reality will deny a good man, who has a future and his life together. For what?
Our generation is a mess all because y’all think that what you see and what you’re fed is what you want, need or deserve. Social media and hip hop make it okay to be a baller, yet we overlook the job or work put in to become said icon. It makes it okay to be an entertainer or exotic dancer but just because media glorifies the art doesn’t mean it is something to be proud and dignified of. Imagine if your mother was a stripper? Would you be proud of that? Imagine if your mom was half naked with her blessings on display for social media? Would you embrace that? If you had a child, would you be supportive and happy with your daughters decision to sell her looks as a means to gather popularity, money, attention?
Women used to be the building block of a family. The foundation for what a home was built on. I still believe in tradition, in happiness, love, longevity and the woman being a queen. As I said in the beginning, this isn’t a denunciation or meant to cause any drama. I just want women to be and live up to the true meaning behind their purpose and existence. Regardless of the life you choose to lead, you’re still a part of the most beautiful and precious species on the planet. Have faith, dignity and respect for yourself. Be the queen you were created to be. Don’t sell yourself for a little shine. Don’t utilize your looks as a means for attention, survival, or income.
Be more than you’re appearance. Seek more than a “right now” guy. Stop acting like your inbox is some sacred, hallowed location where only certain men are permitted to establish your acquaintance. We all know, in the real world, you get back what you put out. You receive what it is you seek. Our world continues to spin out of control and love has lost its value, meaning, purpose. With that said, what is it that you truly think, hope, believe you deserve or want? By all means….share your opinion. Real men want to know, and, as a real man, I still love you all.
Quit complaining about what he, she or they did to you. We’ve all been through something. Yes it hurts, but so too does a hangnail, paper cut, bruise, broken bone …to get to my point, this too shall pass. The pain lasts as long as you allow it to by focusing on it instead of a means to fix it. That bruise or broken bone eventually heals. It may very well leave a scar but with the proper treatment and effort, it will fade away and you will get better, and become once again, as good as new. Self love is the best love.
If you’ve got the time, I guarantee this will be worth the read: They say we are all fighting a battle no one knows of. Everyone struggles daily with something that tears them up inside. Skeletons exist in all of our closets. We experience death in the form of accidents, suicide, overdose, murder, natural causes yet what do we do to offer change? We experience pain in the form of loss, lies, cheating, bullying, inequality, war, depression and loneliness. Often times we stay in situations longer than we should. Other times we don’t allow enough time for opportunities to blossom. We look past the evil of those who remain evil. Other times we bypass the good of those who may have stumbled along the way. We choose like over love, image over character, media over reality, quantity over quality. There also exist times when we sell our beauty and soul for limelight and temporary monetary gains. At the end of the day what do you have? When the sun sets and you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you know what your purpose is? Do you know who you really are? You can wait on a perfection that will never come. You can seek a fairy tale that will never become reality. However, you can also accept and embrace your gifts and blessings and make the most of them. Too often we settle for less than what it is we deserve. Other times we sell ourselves short by not taking a chance on that which scares us or appears to be a difficult challenge. Nothing worthwhile comes easy in this life we lead. If happiness is what you desire then happiness is what you’ll experience if you learn to love yourself and accept what this world and what your God presents to you. But nothing will ever change unless you take the necessary steps to make it happen. Take off the shades, open your eyes and see with your heart and soul.
Everyday I see an overabundance of complaints from a multitude of individuals in regards to the opposite sex. This prompted me to acknowledge and emphasize a few ideas that often times get overlooked. First and foremost, you must recognize that happiness is something that starts from within you. Too many people are looking for or relying on others to fill a void, provide joy or rescue them from the point and place they currently reside in on their life course. Secondly, who and what you think you want is not always what is ideal for you and your future. With social media and trends, people tend to be influenced by types and stereotypes. A lot of your prior heartache and suffering is a direct result of you chasing, latching on to and desiring the idea of things and people who are, in reality, no good for your spiritual and emotional growth and development. Next up is the concept of effort. Typically (but not always true) the people who put in the most time and effort are usually the ones who find you interesting, appealing, beautiful. They may not appear to be exactly what you’re looking for, but in the interest of attention and effort, there may be one who is deserving of your time and effort. If you cannot reciprocate the appreciation and adoration to one who has a genuine interest in you, why complain when you receive that same treatment from another? Think about what it is you truly want, then think about who is actually willing to provide it for you. Lastly, there will always be a plethora of options, a never-ending list of people, decisions and choices. Use more than just your eyes and choose wisely. Do not get too far ahead of yourself. Do not become too engulfed in the past and what has already come to pass. Truthfully, what you want, need and deserve is already available to you, it is just a matter of making the time and effort to take on the opportunity. He/she/it likely already exists in or around your bubble. Sometimes it will require a bit of change, a bit of stepping outside of your box, going against the grain, taking a chance, but you will never know unless you give it a try. We all want to love and be loved, but what are we willing to do to be in the position to give it, receive it and keep it, the right and righteous way? Just a thought.