Everyday I see an overabundance of complaints from a multitude of individuals in regards to the opposite sex. This prompted me to acknowledge and emphasize a few ideas that often times get overlooked. First and foremost, you must recognize that happiness is something that starts from within you. Too many people are looking for or relying on others to fill a void, provide joy or rescue them from the point and place they currently reside in on their life course. Secondly, who and what you think you want is not always what is ideal for you and your future. With social media and trends, people tend to be influenced by types and stereotypes. A lot of your prior heartache and suffering is a direct result of you chasing, latching on to and desiring the idea of things and people who are, in reality, no good for your spiritual and emotional growth and development. Next up is the concept of effort. Typically (but not always true) the people who put in the most time and effort are usually the ones who find you interesting, appealing, beautiful. They may not appear to be exactly what you’re looking for, but in the interest of attention and effort, there may be one who is deserving of your time and effort. If you cannot reciprocate the appreciation and adoration to one who has a genuine interest in you, why complain when you receive that same treatment from another? Think about what it is you truly want, then think about who is actually willing to provide it for you.  Lastly, there will always be a plethora of options, a never-ending list of people, decisions and choices. Use more than just your eyes and choose wisely. Do not get too far ahead of yourself. Do not become too engulfed in the past and what has already come to pass. Truthfully, what you want, need and deserve is already available to you, it is just a matter of making the time and effort to take on the opportunity. He/she/it likely already exists in or around your bubble. Sometimes it will require a bit of change, a bit of stepping outside of your box, going against the grain, taking a chance, but you will never know unless you give it a try. We all want to love and be loved, but what are we willing to do to be in the position to give it, receive it and keep it, the right and righteous way? Just a thought.